Child custody-Tips to build your case

Couple neglects sometimes opportunities to settle disputes when involved in emotion and stress of separations and divorces. This applies in particular in respect of parenthood and child custody. If the two parties are willing to work together and avoid in the courtroom, mediation can be a more beneficial option, but in many cases both parties strongly feel that is the more suitable parent. In such cases, recourse to an impartial judge to decide the matter on the basis of the information. Before your child custody cases before a judge, know what factors help you build your case while avoiding pitfalls.

Build your case

The only guarantee in the custody battle is that no one really WINS. In the course of proceedings to the opposing party to try to identify aspects where you can have seemingly failed as a parent, even when you think you've done the best job possible. When you have made bad choices in some areas, your hope to convince the judges that these elections do not prevent you from is regarded as the best janitor for children. The following measures can help as you prepare your case for safekeeping:

1) Know your role

Simply entitled "mother", "father" or "mappinnehallsmallarna" will not hold importance in the courtroom. To be able to prove that you are the better parent. Apart from a title, you will be expected to define your role in your child's life. "Wake up time" you spend with your children on a daily basis, so be prepared to discuss what you do on a particular day or weekend with that child will be considered. Providing a meaningful experience into account that you have given your child only helps your cause.

2) Keep good records

Possesses a strong sense of love and responsibility for your child is not enough. When you prepare the pre-trial custody, make an effort to document how to for your child. Be prepared to explain how much financial, spiritual, educational, emotional and physical support that you provide. It may be wise to keep a journal noting instances that you feel that your lawyer or judge may find useful. Judges are more interested in what you do, as opposed to hearing about what the other party does not do.

3) makes your homework-literally.

If your case involves schoolchildren aged, know that questions might arise related school performance and attendance. To be able to demonstrate a history or a pattern of positive involvement in your child's education is a plus. Good indicators are parent-Teacher Association (PTA) participation, attendance at parent-teacher conferences and a postal communication with school related to your child.

Pitfalls

After a brief overview of ways to build your case represents the following list situations to avoid, if possible:

1) do not take

Never assume that the judge take precedence over the opposing party on grounds of sex, financial situation or any other surface related factor. Custody is simply about the question of which party provides children with the likelihood that grow up in the best environment. Custody is a character.

2) play the blame game

Many have heard the saying: "Keep your friends close, but keep your enemies even closer." In custody matters, it is important that you do not seem to be too critical or error to find against the opposing party. Both parents have an interest in the outcome of the case. If you are unwilling to work with the other party or consider their needs, can judge show this negative. In addition, if the case is not determined by you, the other party may be more willing to meet your needs whether they feel less attacked during custody. Remember that it is more about how you as a parent, and less about what the other parent is not.

3) people in your circle of friends

Not everyone has access to, you must have access to your children. Too often parents are assessed by the company they keep. Involvement in a variety or unstable friendships and relationships can negatively affect how a judge will see your ability to provide a secure and stable environment conducive to raising children.

4 Habits die hard)

In custody cases results in the past to haunt you, it is not okay to be dependent on or casually accustomed to drugs and alcohol. Nothing speaks more against losing custody cases than drugs, sexual and/or physical abuse. Again, these issues speaks to the character of the individual, and the judges frown heavily on such negative habits.

Alesia m. Vick is the lead attorney at the law offices of Alesia m. Vick in Knightdale, NC. She is a licensed and practicing lawyer in North Carolina. She practices family law-divorce, separation, child custody and adoption. Her written article topics include "Female divorce Attorneys-are they better?" and "fathers and fathers must divorce what today's know before entering the courtroom." More, if the Attorney Alesia m. Vick found on her fixed Web site at http://www.VickLegal.com