Help For Perpetrators of Domestic Violence

Very many people assume that it is only the victims of domestic violence that need help. Little do we know that even the people who are responsible for the abuse usually have a will to change and become better persons. There are perpetrator programmes that are established to help abusers who are desperate to change. They are designed to change the violent behavior in men. It helps them to realize the value of non-abusive healthy relationships and if possible aspire to live better lives. You will agree with me that majority of perpetrators of domestic violence are male and so the programme operators are mostly male. The programmes are usually made of small groups of around 9-16 men who have a history of being violent.

They might also be in currently abusive relationship. They are men from all walks of life, classes, backgrounds, races and geographical locations. The small group involve activities which are usually run by a maximum of three group-workers with previous experiences. The discussions are motivational, inspiration and educational. The group tackles all the subjects concerning violence and abuse. They define them, understand the perpetrators behavior, and most importantly they learn that they can control and choose not to be violent. They are taught to take responsibility for their violent behavior by avoiding to blame others. Perpetrators of domestic violence join the group because they are ready to change. They are made to understand the effect of their violence and how to notice when they are about to become violent and learn how to stop.

If you are among the perpetrators of domestic violence, you might be having a problem of resolving conflicts in a relationship. In the small group you will learn many non-abusive approaches of dealing with relationship problems. If you are always provoked by your partner's anger, you can help your partner to manage anger in a better non-abusive way. The help groups have a way of helping you to build respective relationships where you can negotiate and listen to your partner without getting hurt or worked up. You will never regret joining the interactive discussion groups as they offer realistic, stimulating and relevant advice. They look into every man's situation to make sure every single person benefits. In the meetings there are check-in moments to report any continued cases of abuse after the last meeting.

The changing programme of perpetrators may last long or shorter depending on the amount of change involved in the one's behavior. Change is a process and it does not happen overnight. A person who is to fully benefit from the programme should attend at least 2-3 hours a day for approximately 24 weeks. In other words a dedicated abusive person who is willing to change should attend 75 sessions without fail. According to testimonies from fully changed perpetrators of domestic violence, these programmes work miracles. You can join the one near you. Sadly, it is not all places which have perpetrator programmes. You can visit the domestic violence associations for more details.

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